Training was going well but unfortunately, fianc decided to go against every step I took to try to ensure he was a well behaved little gentleman. It takes a lot of time and it shows IMO how much I actually care for my girlfriend because I cant tell you how many men would just hit it and leAve because of an annoying pup. Sometimes.its not the pet. i feel terrible having feelings of anger towards a dog i feel worse having feelings of jealousy toward the dog.i told my husband this is crazy..im your wife..you married me not the dog wth man my wishes and needs dont mean anything to you i will leave when i am able.he didnt say anything to that.didnt seem to care..my husband is usually a very loving kind man my kids love him he is great with them..we should be spending time together excited about our new baby on the way..but the only thing he cares about in his free time is his dog and video games.help its making me extremely depressed. If it has gotten to that point, it really isnt about the dog, it is about the relationship. Let me be clear he picked out the dog, it was his idea, and he was very emotional about it. for 4 years. He is treating the puppy like a baby and trying to get me interested but Im not, besides I have my own dog that I never brought with because I knew the conditions were not favourable and I know we hardly at home, so it was best to leave her with my family and their pets that she grew up with. But, gradually, in no time, your dog will, On a beautiful sunny morning, you and your pooch go for a walk outside your house. i feel so hurt when this happens that this animal is more respected than i am. its her baby and thats how theyve always been. Animals cannot show spite but I am not 100 percent about jealousy. He gets ten days leave when the baby is born. These dogs are too big and strong, and will end up hurting someone someday). Ive has to replace her bed because she pooped on it, and she is tearing up the toys that belong to one of the other dogs. I guess that my very first question would have to be to wonder how you end up with someone who so adamantly hates your pet if you have one. These all in his own words after I told him that I wasnt going to do what he had demanded. On top of that he never got her trained or really house broke her completely and allowed her to sleep in the bed. This thing is hyper and destructive, and my husband refuses to make it ever behave. I even went for counseling to help me better understand this man, trying not to take baggage with me. my wife and i just got into another argument due to her dogs! He is resentful towards me since I have tried to work with him on discipline. Im sorry and mad for you, that you had to go through that. Should i be concerned about this? As for the dog thing and spreading bacteria, the only dog (or cat) disease that Ive ever heard of thats communicable to humans is Rabies. Did you to ever think that your partners ha no idea how inappropriate you were being as dog owners before they actually moved in and lived it everyday? Compromise does not work if you are asking someone to tolerate something they cant stand. The emotional energy invested in loving ones pets robs emotional energy from a human partner Oh please give me strength. There are so many people in the world who actually LIKE dogs, it is pointless to waste time on ones who dont. Not today. Really blows my mind. Although, my pets never ranked higher in the family than my mother, father, sister, brother, or spouse. A part of me feels like I know that this dog means so much more to him. Its really sad because dog owners who do this never care about how anyone else feels or about their own cleanliness and surroundings. A dog and a cat knows right from wrong. This is getting out of control & is affecting our intamacy & having a healty happy relationship. My needs will never come before their craving to be with their pet. She had one dog she rescued. I love some dogs, like my own, but I do not love chihuahuas. I dont know. Friendships may be a different story in some special circumstances, but it should be a no-brainer when you love someone. For four years now he has left me to be in charge of their care knowing full well that I was never a dog person. Heres my issue. It is ludicrous to fault someone and say well you knew she had a dog. I spent a number of years working in mental health and have gotten feedback from old colleagues, I guess Im really just looking for some anonymous feedback on the situation. Like you said, there has to be some give and take and thats what youll have to do if you want to be with him and vice versa so you both and can happy. (unless you count liking to lick me a bad habit) She LOVES to hike in the arroyos and hills, is very friendly and outgoing, plays games w me like fetch and keep away and plays with her squeakiesshe never chews cords like the previous ownets said and she did once w me . HOLD YOUR OWN GROUND! At that time I had an 8 year old yorkie (who is now 10) and my husband had never owned a dog before in his life. My SO has had this dog many years before me and my oldest came into the picture which I can understand but I can not understand this lack of control of this dog. I work too long to have to deal with anymore issues or responsibilities. Last night, we had an argument about it because she put the dog on my pillows and then cheered him on (she thought it was funny and did as a joke per her view) and got upset because i told her she was reinforcing the idea that its ok to sleep there (which it is most def not) so then she got upset, picked up the dog and slept in the guest room with him. Although many people love dogs, not everyone does. intimate relationship | 12K views, 171 likes, 20 loves, 67 comments, 11 shares, Facebook Watch Videos from LINDA: a couple sleeping together Haha she has no son. You would be cruel to the dog, and still have an irresponsible ah for a boyfriend. Im about fed up with this dog and ready to get rid of it but I know my boyfriend is not. So, I have to follow him around to make sure hes on the right track. I call her the furry wife and thats exactly what she has been. Husband/boyfriend has an extravagant amount of responsibility for the canine. Its a warped relationship Watch for pictures of the animal everywhere and how he or she speaks about their pet. I admit I have also spent considerable time and energy to train them to live with us in harmony. For the first 6 months my partner did not mind her sharing the bed. I just want to say that I see both sides here. The main reason why does your dog misbehaves quite often could be a lack of basic obedience training. she barks like mad everytime she hears someone outside or when we have visitors coming through the door, even if its someone she knows ,and two minutes later shes all over the visitors like a rash lapping up the attention, also when we walk in town she is really nervous, shakes, unexpectedly twirls around sometimes nearly knocking me over. Which isnt going to happen. to get off of the couch to go get a treat he had for her hed say She doesnt have to, shes the queen! He hurt me deeply and there were times I absolutely hated the animal because she was the agent of my pain. He gets very frustrated with them always being under us, the bullying of one to the other, the barking outside, the dog hair in the house even though I vacuum multiple times a week etc Any one have any help or advice to help work this issue out? The problem isnt your dog its how you treat it. My partner bitches and whines about my dog saying CONSTANTLY that my dog is a dog who doesnt even know hes a dog. Whatever you feel now, multiply times ten thousand, and that is how much you will hard the shedding when you live with him. Lucy, Im glad I offered something relatable. Suppose the dog bites your child got drew pretty much a considerable amount of blood and the child is afraid of canines, now the husband/boyfriend is correct beyond any doubt. Apologizing and thinking we can both move on didnt do the trick either. Instead, it is all about the dogs. If your husband/boyfriend needs to get rid of the dog, the main reason could be puppy blues. Its like the dog and my husband are fighting over being the dominant male and I find it silly. Its very difficult for me to separate my heart from my brain. Of course, an animal cannot hurt you emotionally. The dog doesn't deserve you anger, or to lose his home. He will not compromise at all on this issue. She has 5 dogs and I cant even begin to describe that situation. Ive visited other dog related websites and you wouldnt believe how some people react when you arent a complete and total dog nut. To a hotel by myself? He takes his 13 year old Lab a plate of goodies every night after dinner. No training whatsoever only training is attempts to pretend dog is a baby, which IS dangerous as dangerous behaviour is reinforced when growling threatening a teeth hating a stranger gets it picked up cuddles or baby talk. I know how overwhelming it can be and the problem is, they think its normal and refuse to change. My husband has forced me to hate dogs. I knew this dog was hurting. Once they are comfortable with one command, I am looking forward to moving to a new trick or command. Ultimately, it is extremely unfair to make a partner get rid of his/her pet. She recently left on a trip where she was gonna be gone for days with her Mother and Sister. I told him that he needs to come clean up the yard and talk to the landlord himself since his name is still on the lease. I cant help that, he was like that when he came to me from his last family. He thinks I should love his dog as much as he does. my question is , is it wrong of me to get upset cause the dog gets all the attention and I barely get any. She is causing me more stress and pain than anything, but he refuses to give her up. He admitted hed never told me he was frightened of them and thought it wouldnt be an issue, despite knowing how much I wanted a dog. So we decided to take action and ask our landlord to have her live with us, the landlord said yes. WHAT! If the brother can afford to take a year off he can afford a kennel or to fly the dog to Europe where there are plenty of dogs. Not disciplining an animal does not mean love. The thought of it was hurting our relationship until it ultimately ended. its almost as high as the bed. Since they are part poodle, they are extremely hyper and neurotic and have the energy of 20 toddlers. When I am at his house the dog cant let us cuddle in front of TV before interacting with aggressiveness act , he is either wants to sit in the same sofa and not a separate sofa. Thank you. Was untrained and would also get rewarded for misbehaving. She likes to tell people that the dog lives better than she does. He didnt know it, but his wife told him that the couple ordered their dog a burger and had the dog sitting at the table while they fed the dog the burger?? I am seeking advice about a present situation I have with my spouse about his dog. If the dog is unmannerly and untrained, that is what dog trainers are for. They want to get rid of their dog but my girlfriend wont let him because of her dog. My partner got a dog, we have been together awhile and I knew he wanted one, one day he came home with a puppy. When we met he never told me he was a pet lover. Its becoming a problem I really hate this dog :-(. This is where the problem comes in, his Godchild got him a puppy for his birthday, his birthday was 2 months ago but he got the gift today. Consult your veterinarian: Its always better to chat with your veterinarian in order to make sure if there is any health-related issue that triggers this lousy behavior. The dog recently bit a groomer (had to get stitches) and also viciously attacked my foot while I was trying to get my dogs toy away from him (he destroys toys instead of playing with them). Litter boxes are so useful when training tiny puppies, as they dont know how to use bathrooms. Now, we are back to this point where I have been bit by this dog now twice, she doesnt listen to me what so ever, refuses to eat unless its my wife who feeds her and Im nowhere around, is right there by my wifes side no matter what if shes not outside on her chain. Its also on linoleum so it doesnt leave a smell like it would in carpet. Unlike your family your dog never disagrees with you, no matter how wrong you are, because it has no idea what you are talking about. My husband Hates her behavior but really loves her and cuddles with her. He was darn right nasty to her most times. I felt betrayed but chose to comprise and said she can be on the couch, but only on his side. I have a dashchund and my husband is so jealous of him.he only shouts at him when poor soul does not even do anyyhing wrong. My husband knows better than to bring home another dog. If you Love your dog like I think you do. I just cant do it anymore! I hope it hoovers up something toxic very soon. I think you need to keep putting your foot down because you will be married soon and you have to matter. Ive seen it so many times these are the people who tend to get a dog because they are single and lonely, or because they think dogs are cute, or because everyone else has one and they are doing these animals a huge disservice by not training/socializing them properly or treating them like DOGS and not humans. Its hard living with so much spite towards my little ones. im just not sure i can make it till hes no longer in the picture. No. I really dont even know where to start. She sheds 24/7 and no this is not an exaggeration. I hurt inside feeling the way I do about this dog, and whenever I try to talk to my boyfriend about how I feel he just says its stupid your jealous of a dog, its just dumb. I dont understand why people think dogs should matter more than human lifes. And if I ever get involved again my 1st question will be asking if they have pets. That was ages ago and I still fester over it. Funny how they excepted us with our pets and now that things got more serious they want to change our situation. When she arrived she was on the couch. She says that wild be cruel to them. Im not a person who is fond of energetic animals in general though, which is why I prefer the quiet calmness of cats. I dont know how you handled living for that long in the same house as that dog. My bfs dog (hes never had pets & bought the dog for his kids when he & his ex wife divorced bc he thought it would make the divorce easier for the kids.I know, terrible idea! Yet my fiance has an issue with my Pitt drinking so much. All I know is that its really frustrating. Doesnt see our grandkids anymore. He grew up in a family where the dog stays outside. Our dogs get along well but not perfectly. Wow, it is so comforting to know that I am not alone after reading everyones posts. If a good marriage or relationship is what we desire, and if we make this our priority, then we must look at some of those things in our lives that may be taking up too much of our time and energy (physical and emotional) and ultimately causing us to loose sight of our goal. And if youre the one resenting your partners pet, be clear about what you need to feel better. Everything about her dog does nothing short of threaten to blow my fuse. Ill be moving out tomorrow. He was even having me pay $1000 month to pay for my health insurance through his employer group coverage his was free. Petsitting misbehaving dogs who may miss their humans is not the wisest plan of action either. Sorry but your problems are just going to escalate !! Its been almost a year now and she still continues to try and make me care for this dog. Get advice from a dog behaviorist: But, you shouldnt do this right away as you realize the reason. Anyway, just wanted to say that I totally understand your frustration and also, your desire to hang in there. If I sneak table scraps to the dog, he gets furious because Fido cant have wheat products! I mean, COME ON ITS A DOG! Except hes getting attacked he will defend himself. My husband had this dog prior to us getting married. My husband and I have been living together for almost two years. I get infuriated thinking about it. What do you even base that arbitrary and subjective remark on anyway? Only made me better. No amount of vacuuming keeps the hair at bay. After all she is one. Shame on you for being one of those women. Empty life dedicated to dogs. The dog is all over the couch, and heaven for bit I leave anything on the couch that might stop the dog from getting on their at night to sleep; which the dog as an orthopedic bed that he bought him. We got our dog after we were married, and the reason its worked is because weve been on the same page regarding the boundaries set. 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